Engaging As An Introvert
11/8/2019
Let me set the record straight, boo boo: I’m an introvert. No amount of time, speaking events, or live videos is ever going to change that. Most people don’t believe me when I claim to be introverted. They assume that I’m an extrovert because all they see is the outgoing version of me. But I’m 100% an introvert. Always have been, always will be. So why do I do such seemingly extroverted things? >>I’ve learned that the things I want in life will only come when I step out of my comfort zone.<< My comfort zone is NOT out in public, speaking to others about my life’s passion. *Cue the sweaty palms and butterflies!* My comfort zone is at home in sweatpants, chilling with my pup, Polo, and ordering DoorDash. *My husband lovingly jokes that if he wasn’t around, I would never leave the house…and he’s probably right.* *However*, my comfort zone doesn’t allow me to fulfill my purpose, which is helping people realize that impossibilities are just possibilities in disguise. Hiding behind the title of “introvert” gets me nowhere. >>So, I refuse to let my introverted tendencies dictate my future success.<< Although I’m sometimes tempted to crawl into a hole and not speak to anyone for days on end, I push past it and put myself out there. I dig deep to find my inner outgoing self when I engage with others. And you know what, Buttercup? The proverbial saying is true: The more you do something, the easier it gets. Like learning to walk, ride a bike, or drive a car, I have taught myself how to be outgoing. Attending speaking events isn’t as difficult for me as they used to be, *but* I DO still collapse onto my pillow afterward, completely exhausted from the stimulation. *My fellow introverted homies out there will get it!* You know that other saying: Nothing worth having comes easy? That’s true too, my friend. >>In order to get what you want, you must get really comfortable with being uncomfortable.<< For me, engaging as an introvert is hard. It’s unnatural. It’s against the grain. But it is SO worth it. So boo, if you’re an introvert like me, I urge you to step out of that little comfort zone of yours. There’s growth and potential waiting for you on the other side. All you have to do is reach for it! The post Engaging As An Introvert appeared first on Jasmine Star. via RSSMix.com Mix ID 8230553 https://ift.tt/2NsXwKl
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*I know, right now you’re probably thinking “That isn’t FUN, Jasmine!”* You’re right Buttercup. And for all those reasons (and many others), no one expected me to EVER stand on a stage. No, not even my sweet mama. *But* I didn’t let those expectations define my destiny. I took that negative energy, crumpled it up like a piece of paper, and threw it in the trash where it belonged. I made the decision to take what seemed impossible and turned it into the possible. Did I stumble a few times along the way? Absolutely. That’s not the end of the story though, boo. I got up, dusted myself off, and tried again. >>I learned from my mistakes, and refused to believe that failure was an option.<< I started speaking to my church group of 6, then groups of 10 people, then took the leap to a crowd of 12. Over the past decade, my confidence has improved and the stages have gotten bigger, but I *still* feel like the girl behind the curve, the one who slowly makes her way through the mess. In this entrepreneurial tortoise and hare race, you can probably guess which one I am! But you wanna know something? THE TORTOISE WINS THE RACE, BOO. All of those people that doubted me? They are like the hare, quick to judge without considering the size of fight that I have in me. *I bet they were surprised when I passed up their assumptions and crossed that theoretical finish line!* The disadvantages that I struggled with years ago are in the past. It doesn’t matter what age I learned to read or what my SAT score was. What matters in this very moment is this: >>I belong. I make a difference. I am enough.<< Friend, I *know* what it feels like to not be EXACTLY where you want to be. However, I choose to reflect on my past with eyes on the future, saying to myself, “I am so happy with how far I’ve come, and I really like the direction I’m headed.” So cheers to us, those who continue to push through while others have their doubts. Cheers to us crazy ones who remain undaunted in our dedication to work while no one is watching. Your success, my sweet tortoise, will silence their doubts. The post When They Say You Can’t Do It, Prove Them Wrong appeared first on Jasmine Star. via RSSMix.com Mix ID 8230553 https://ift.tt/32pkuq2 Have you ever thought to yourself, “I have so much to do,” and then find yourself sitting on the couch aimlessly scrolling Instagram? SAME HERE, boo boo. Becoming overwhelmed with a pile of to-do’s and, in turn, avoiding the work is summed up into one U-G-L-Y word: procrastination. >>Procrastination is our mind’s way of putting a problem in a little box, locking it up, and storing it in the darkest corner of our closet so we can try and forget about it.<< The only problem, Buttercup? Chances are, whatever’s in that little box can’t be forgotten and eventually needs to come out. I’m only able to paint this pretty picture for you because I’m guilty of this, too.
Now that we’ve established that everyone procrastinates *and that I might have a slight obsession with Us Weekly*, let me speak some harsh truth: >>Procrastination is the highest form of selfishness.<< *Sometimes the truth hurts, doesn’t it?* The minute that I’m tempted to hide something away in that little procrastination box is the minute that I say TIME OUT so I can remind myself of these three things. 1. Every minute wasted is robbing others from our greatest purposeWhenever you find yourself procrastinating, don’t think of yourself; think of the people that you are intended to serve. They are missing out on your greatest purpose when you make the choice to waste time. Don’t let fear hold you back from pursuing your purpose. However big, crazy, and ridiculous your dream may be, by simply showing up, doing the work, and serving people well, I believe your success is a foregone conclusion, boo boo. 2. Done is better than perfectLet me deal it to you straight: Perfection is just procrastination in disguise. Friend, in case you missed the memo, NOTHING is perfect. Trying to make something perfect is just saying, “I’m not actually ready to put this out yet.” So, while you’re trying to do #allthethings to make something perfect, please know that it doesn’t exist and you’re wasting valuable time. Just DO it! 3. There’s a difference between rest and procrastinationGiving yourself time and space to relax is 100% necessary. We require rest just like we need food and water! *But* there is a fine line between resting and procrastinating, and sometimes that line gets blurry. Making a cognizant effort to pencil in time to relax is much different than avoiding something. Knowing the difference can make you more conscious of your actions in the future. Friend, we *all* procrastinate to some capacity at one point or another. It’s simply human nature! What we can’t do is let it consume us. We must unlock that little box, throw away the key, and GET STUFF DONE. Who’s with me?! The post Avoiding The Ugly “P” Word: Procrastination appeared first on Jasmine Star. via RSSMix.com Mix ID 8230553 https://ift.tt/328ilz2 >>Brave (adj.) – having the ability to face unpleasant conditions or behaviors without showing fear.<< The word ‘brave’ should also be defined as remaining undaunted even though the odds are stacked against you. Listen Buttercup, I know you may lack the money, time, and support that you want. *I know alllllll about the long nights and the worried looks from friends, too.* I was there. Sometimes I STILL wish for things I don’t have. But then it stops there because I stop feeling sorry for myself and start taking action. Your success will happen…not because you have all the resources, feel confident, and have a clearly defined plan. >>Your success will happen because you don’t have it all, AND YOU’RE STILL MAKING IT WORK.<< Success doesn’t go to the smartest, the prettiest, or richest.
Friend, notice that I didn’t say success goes to those who are perfect. That’s because none of us are! >>In fact, success tastes even sweeter to those who have made mistakes. BIG mistakes.<< Why? Because mistakes provide the opportunity to learn and improve. Mistakes allow for humility to make its way into your life. *Everybody loves a slice of humble pie, right?* So be brave, boo boo, and make mistakes. >>Ignore the excuses of why your dream shouldn’t or couldn’t work, and focus on reasons why it WILL.<< Period. The end. Check out the video below, where I speak about How To Be Brave On Social Media *even when you don’t know exactly what you’re doing* at Pays to Be Brave, hosted by Angie Lee. The post Stop With Excuses Why It Won’t Work. Give Me Reasons Why It Will. appeared first on Jasmine Star. via RSSMix.com Mix ID 8230553 https://ift.tt/336ERd1 |
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